I am now starting my third week of my new “me time” routine. After a lot of thinking I have decided to officially call it “T Time” for writing purposes.
I was actually rather nervous at the start of day one. I had no idea how things were going to work out. Change is stressful, even good change. I had to talk myself out of waiting another week to start and pep talked myself into forging ahead.
Day one was…amazing! It was so relaxing being able to do things without constantly looking at the clock. I was able to go slow, stop and ponder, enjoy the sunshine. It was incredibly liberating.
Not perfect of course. I did do two loads of laundry. (I hang a lot of things outside so I can’t wait until late afternoon if I am going to take advantage of the Arizona winter sunshine.) At lunch time I had to sternly tell myself that unloading and reloading the dishwasher could wait until 2:00p. And so it waited and the world didn’t end!
And then real life happened and T Time got interrupted by preparations for a camping trip, a puppet show at school etc. But to my surprise and delight I didn’t let T Time get cancelled altogether. Postponed, rescheduled and skipped at times, but not gone.
I have learned a lot these last two weeks. I learned that I really need this time to myself. I am happier, calmer and less annoyed by small annoyances. I learned that you can get a lot of housework done in 45 focused minutes. I learned that it is okay to relax and be flexible and make stuff up as I go.
One day I found myself wondering what the rules for T Time were. Did there have to be rules? Maybe a few. Could I watch television during T Time? Yes, as long as it was something I really wanted to watch and I wasn’t just killing time flipping through the DVR list. What about cooking or baking. Yes, if it was really something I wanted to do and not just prepping vegetables for dinner that could easily wait until after T Time. Did I need to have a set routine? No, but I do find it best to start my day in the office with some quiet time, thoughts about how to use my T Time and planning my to do list.
The best part of T Time? It has made me a better parent. I am calm and patient and my son is learning how to help clean up. We have been working together, nicely. It is so much better than the frustrated, yelling and still having to do all the cleaning up person I was before. My son responds so much better to the calm. And if he chooses not to help I sadly but firmly enforce the consequences. Turns out he doesn’t mind helping Mom when she is so nice.
I am thrilled to be looking forward to this week filled with T Time, savoring it all the more because I know next week will be another tough week filled with interruptions. Interruptions that I will be able to handle gracefully because my cup of solitude, peace and reflection will be filled to the brim from this week!