We are finally getting our upstairs carpet replaced as I write this. Ever have flooring done while you are living in a home? It’s a huge pain and a big disruption and a lot of work.
Ten days prior to the install date I started moving books, pictures and knickknacks. So I had a few days of an empty-ish bedroom. All the furniture was still in it but the shelves and tops were bare. It felt weird.
Then on Sunday we moved out all the smaller furniture and I got a taste of what my bedroom would be like with only a bed and a nightstand. I thought I might like it. My room is pretty small (10’x11′ I think) so I thought having some empty space would feel nice. Turns out I didn’t love it. I felt like I was in a very small hotel room or a hospital room. Bare isn’t for me.
I like having stuff. My dream for my forever home is to have one full wall of shelves filled with books and a few knickknacks. I like having a decent pile of clothes to choose from. I don’t want to wear a “uniform” and frankly I don’t find it hard to get dressed in the morning.
My hang up with stuff (specifically with spouse and small child) is that it has to have a “home”. A place where it needs to be when not in use. Apparently I am the only one of us three that knows how to put things away when I am done. Clutter just lying around drives me nuts. My son leaves his library books everywhere: on couches, chairs, the floor etc. Other than the book I am actually reading my library books are on a specific shelf in the living room bookcase. I always know where to find them and never have to spend time running around looking for books that have come due.
I don’t like it when there are too many things for a space. And I agree with getting rid of things you don’t use or like or need. But I think there is too much extremism going on right now. The choice doesn’t have to be a 4000′ mansion or a 400′ tiny house. You don’t have to limit your clothes to 33 items or having a closet so stuffed you can’t get things out.
Me? I am shooting for a forever home that is probably around 800′ to 1200′ depending on the layout. I want to be surrounded by my books and mementos from my travels. I want a kitchen that I can cook and bake in with all the pans and bowls I need. I want a front porch and space for a few flowers, maybe a tomato plant and a spot to grow a pumpkin. Nothing teeny and nothing humongous. I want a life that is sized just right for me.
* The picture is of the Redwoods in California. I don’t think you can have too many trees or that they can be too big. 🙂