A few months ago I read something to the effect that looking back makes you depressed and looking forward makes you anxious. To be content you have to be in the here and now. This concept really hit home for me. I have put my focus on staying in the present and I have to say I feel so much happier! Now some of this may be due to the settling of the ol’ hormones but really I feel like keeping my attention on today, right now, has been a big difference maker.
I am finding contentment in getting up and seeing what I need and want to do. And then I do it. I don’t worry about tomorrow’s grocery shopping or the school event at the end of the week. Sometimes I make a list for the next day or two to get things out of my head (so I don’t forget about them but it doesn’t mean I have to do them), but overall I have become pretty good at happily being mindfully in the moment.
I would say the most important thing I learned from my “Magical Mindfulness” 21 day on-line retreat (from Kim Strobel) was that we have control of 40% of our happiness. Fifty percent is genetic and only ten percent is external/environment. I can do a few simple things and be forty percent happier! I say that is worth staying in the moment for.
While Kim gave us six things to think about doing I am sticking with three daily items: gratitude, meditation and exercise. And I’ll do a fourth, random acts of kindness, as often as possible.
I have to confess that I was really surprised to learn that I have complete control over forty percent of my happiness. Am I the only one who had no idea about this?
Here it is, the longest day of the year. I like to celebrate the solstice because it means now the days will start to get shorter, a good thing for me as I am not a fan of the desert sun. Let the slow creep to autumn begin!
But I still find small ways to enjoy summer:
The soft evening sunlight on and through the trees during my end of day swim.
Tangy Lemon Italian Ice. Hits the spot in the heat (and during a hot flash).
Listening to Cubs baseball on the radio.
Finding a glue pen which works great. So much better than the glue sticks which dry out crazy fast here or gummed up Elmer’s glue bottles.
Two really good random picks from the library in a row. The first was “The Clockmaker’s Daughter” by Kate Morton and then I read the “Long Drive Home” by Will Allison. A short, intense, thought provoking read with a great last sentence.
Painting my toenails hot pink.
Finally fixing my bedside lamp. The switch has been wonky for months. The lamp is more than 20 years old and I think the switch was getting stripped. I finally took it apart, bought a new socket and swapped it out….all by myself. Didn’t need a Youtube video or any help finding the right socket at Ace. The hardest part was getting the socket in and out, wiring was easy-peasy!
Working on getting caught up organizing my digital photos, a lovely trip down memory lane.
Just a quick post today, we have a few errands to run and then the triple digit heat will send us into the pool!
I am learning to let go of expectations (especially in regards to my son) and so many things are making me happy this week! I am, for a change, living in the moment.
I am enjoying the return of “The Good Witch” in addition to watching “Poirot” and the last few episodes of “A Place to Call Home” (but why is Olivia letting Matthew push her around?).
My son and I have just about finished re-doing his room. We painted a wall, ordered cool outlet covers and light switch plates and put up a spacious wall of cubbies. We took everything out and cleaned the carpet. His new bed is delivered and the under storage is plentiful and works great. Now we just have to clear out the closet.
A few weeks ago I got a call about the Census Bureau job but the training date was only 4 days after my surgery so I didn’t think I could go. They said they would put my name back in the pool for the second wave of hiring and I got a call this week, this time with a training date in August so I said yes!
Thanksgiving in June. I figure if you can have Christmas in July that would translate to Thanksgiving in June. I made turkey tenderloins, cranberry sauce (I always freeze a bag or two of cranberries) and a sweet potato pie that turned out quite tasty. (I tried a new recipe that had maple syrup in it and whipped egg whites to make it light.)
To help add a feeling of cool to the post!
I am a bit of a weather geek and one of my sorrows is how boring the weather tends to be here. Aside from the occasional large monsoon thunderstorm (mostly in August) there isn’t much that happens here weatherwise. But this year we had snow in February and an actual spring!
Typically we are swimming by mid-May on a regular basis and June is hot, dry, cloudless and still. This year we had vast temperature swings, wind and bits of rain, enough with all the pollen to turn our pool green. My husband spent a week trying to clear it up and we finally gave up and called in the pros. Three days later the pool was clear, just in time for the triple digit heat.
We had a thunderstorm one night, very odd this time of year, but exhilarating. And we seem to get clouds and overcast skies for part of each day, very atypical. The forecast is for a late monsoon season this year. I don’t believe it.
My local library branch has bookcases in the front of the library that display new books and recently returned books, staff picks and then some sort of themed display. (Right now it is kid’s books designed to get them to read over the summer.) I love browsing these displays and stumbling on a happy surprise. Last trip I found “The Clockmaker’s Daughter” by Kate Morton. I love books that show different periods in time and at the end find out how everyone connects! Looks like that is Morton’s theme and I am looking forward to reading more of her works.
Realizing that the only way to keep my son off the computer is to get him out of the house in the afternoons. I have several adventures planned for the next two weeks, most involving lunch and a visit to various places. Today we are going to Target to get a few items for his room, the library and finally Trader Joe’s for those tiny ice cream cones.
Yesterday I wrote about what I made for the Handmade Joy Exchange. Today’s post is about what I received from Sarah.
A lovely painting on silk! I never even though of painting on silk, it seems impossible. And it was from France! I have been to France twice for military deployments (pre 9/11) and this package brought back many happy memories. Thank you so much Sarah!
Even though I had my doubts about participating in the Handmade Joy Exchange I am so glad I did it. It really did bring me joy, in both the giving and the receiving. Thank you Anne for sponsoring such a lovely idea!
Part One: What I made for the Handmade Joy Exchange
I mentioned I was looking at more areas than just writing when I thought of my word for the year. I like to dabble in many different creative-ish areas. But I am, sadly, not very talented. I wish I could paint a landscape or design and sew a fabulous quilt but I am who I am. One very organized, list making, linear, planner, rule follower of a person. When I did a sketchbook experiment with a friend I was quite lacking in ideas. All his sketches seem so cool and fun. I wanted to be Bob Ross and paint a happy little tree with a sun dappled barn and a babbling brook. Or at least cool abstracts in a Paul Klee kind of way.
In this creative area I am thinking maybe my word should be creative acceptance. I am who I am and there is nothing wrong with that. So I can’t draw a picture but I enjoy coloring one. And I am good at following the directions in a needlepoint kit and creating ornaments or wall hangings. And I have done some bead work kits and sequins on felt. I have knitted scarves and one afghan. I made a quilted dresser scarf.
So maybe I am not creative in the traditional sense or exactly how I wish I was in my mind. But I have decided to believe I am simply creative in my own linear, follow directions, non-spontaneous way. And yet, there is more to the story.
After careful consideration I pushed myself to participate in Anne’s (My Giant Strawberry) Handmade Joy gift exchange. I felt like this was a pretty big leap for me. I was worried that all the other participants would be artisans with Etsy shops and booths at craft fairs. But I did it anyway.
I came up with my idea, started working on it and kept my fingers crossed that it would be suitable for whoever I got. I started off making a small needlepoint sign in spring colors. Or maybe it was a bookmark. But it didn’t seem to be enough. I decided it was a sign and then decided to make one for winter. It was supposed to be a snowflake but I think it turned out more like a flower. It would have made sense to stick with a needlepoint theme but of course why would I make sense? So I followed my creative courage and colored a leaf for autumn and made a felt sun for summer. I included a suction cup hook and now I get to imagine my “art” hanging in a window in England! I got to send my items to an Italian architect living in England. How cool is that?
I am just sorry I forgot to take a photo of the back of the sun, I put the word “Joy” on it with sequins. Oh well.
One of the great things about having a child has been getting to read so many children’s books. Old favorites and new authors have all been enjoyable. One of my new favs is Cynthia Rylant. I love all her series but especially ‘Henry and Mudge’ and ‘Mr. Putter and Tabby’. (I say new but we started reading her books 8 years ago, so by new I mean not of my childhood.)
In the past I have tried both gratitude lists and joy lists but neither quite defined what I was trying to capture. And then I read “Mr. Putter and Tabby Write the Book” and I had my epiphany. Not to spoil the plot but Mr. Putter is having a hard time writing a book and instead writes a list of “Good Things”.
I am stealing this idea because I love it. So thank you to Ms. Rylant and Mr. Putter 😊.
Good Things ☘
chamomile flowers from Trader Joe’s 🌼
working in my sketchbook (see pics below)
the sound of an owl hooting in the distance ( I also like it when I hear trains or church bells) 🚂
learning how to add emoji’s 🌵
signing up for an on-line photography class that starts in April 📸
reading “Match Making for Beginners” by Maddie Dawson and having a great line stuck in my head: “Whatever happens, love that.” 📘
chocolate covered strawberry ice cream from Tillamook 🍨
cloud shadows on mountains (makes me smile every time!) ☁️
lace curtains moving in the breeze
I am thinking this will become a semi-regular feature, like Photo Friday. We’ll see.
Last weekend we went camping at Chiricahua National Monument near Willcox, AZ. Pure bliss!
On the way down we stopped at Apple Annie’s and picked pumpkins and did the corn maze. A very muddy corn maze but we enjoyed it anyway.
We found some fall color on our hike to Far Away Ranch. The weather was perfect, not hot, not too chilly.
Far Away Ranch has a great history filled with strong women. The fireplace was made from stones taken from a monument to President Garfield that was falling down. The names were chiseled by Buffalo Soldiers stationed there before Far Away Ranch became Far Away Ranch.
We had a wonderful tour of the house led by Ranger Anne.
In the afternoon we hiked to the top of Sugar Loaf Mountain. This is an old fire lookout tower and proof that we went all the way to the top.
At one point we actually hiked through the mountain!
I would have thought it was too cold for the snakes to be out, especially in the shade, but apparently not. This is a black tailed rattlesnake I believe, right near the beginning of the trail. Luckily other hikers gave us a heads up preventing any heart attacks.
Still there on the trip back, we had marked his spot with a small rock cairn so as to not get caught unawares.
There are no fire pits at Bonita Canyon Campground so we brought our own, perfectly legal. The rangers will let you have a small fire in the grill (if there are no fire restrictions of course!) This was much nicer and we cooked hot dogs and s’mores the first night. It was perfect sitting around the fire weather.
Okay, while seeing the snake on the hike and a skunk (which I did not take pictures of) one night near our campsite (when I was sitting alone by the fire!) did not exactly bring me joy it was still cool (you know, afterwards). But this guy brought a smile to my face:
The mom had already crossed the road and then I came along and the fawn stopped and I stopped and I told him to go ahead. I could see the mama deer anxiously looking back and after a moments hesitation the baby deer bounded across the road and caught up to his mama. We saw a lot of deer, they know they are safe in the National Park area during hunting season.
The weather is in the 70’s here! 70’s!!!! And rain. I think this is my first October rain since moving here. In the eight years I have lived here we have mostly still been in the 90’s this time of year, I cannot articulate how happy I am! Okay, actually I am going to try and find my words and share my joy of all things autumn.
Clothes: I know wearing long pants shouldn’t be such a big deal but it is. There are people here who dress seasonally no matter the actual weather. And they look stupid wearing boots and down vests and turtleneck sweaters when the high is 92°. And some people wear shorts and flip-flops year around and they look stupid shivering in the 50° morning temps.
Me? I compromise and dress for the actual temperature but wear seasonal colors. And this year I am actually wearing 3/4 or long sleeve shirts in October. Not heavy ones but t-shirts in oranges and browns and reds. And did I mention long pants! Not just capris but all the way to the floor pants.
Movies: I am ready to watch “Hocus Pocus”, a “Good Witch” marathon and “The Ghost and Mr. Chicken” (On TCM the 27th!).
Books: I just finished “Royal Blood” by Rhys Bowen and now I am rereading “The Diva Haunts the House” by Krista Davis. After that I have some Stephen King short stories and I need to resume reading “Dracula” which I started last October but didn’t finish.
Cartoons: “It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown” of course and my favorite “The Adventures of Ichabod and Mr. Toad” with Bing Crosby. It is a Disney version of “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow”, scary and funny.
My current work in progress that I hope I really do turn into a pillow when it is done:
I just have the background left to fill in.
Jigsaw puzzles and coloring pictures with autumn themes. Often times the smallest things make me the happiest.
In the kitchen I am loving using these new plates:
This week we enjoyed pumpkin spice pudding and Tasty Kakes pumpkin spice mini donuts and spiced apple cider. And hot cinnamon apple spiced tea, yum!
Autumn smells: Vanilla pumpkin candle from Trader Joe’s and Autumn Leaves wax scent from Michael’s.
My latest ‘thing’ is to light the candle in the jar while I do the dinner dishes. Why is candlelight so homey?
So there you have it, the sights, smells and tastes of autumn!
My 5 year old chrysanthemum blooming at the perfect time!
My five year old chrysanthemum blooming at just the right time!
Wow we had a busy Labor Day weekend but it was all good. It is no secret that autumn is far and away my favorite season but I do my best to enjoy each season and holiday in it’s own time. This weekend we managed to combine the best of summer: swimming and grilling out, with the best of autumn: apple picking and college football.
We started out with an after dinner swim on Friday night which was marvelous. It is dark here by 7:30p and it feels so different swimming under a night sky.
On Saturday morning I had my first bowling of the season with my once a month league and Saturday evening it was time for Wildcat Football. Yes they lost but the marching band still rocked it!
Sunday we had a quiet at home day planned so we could recover from the late night. (Will the Pac-12 ever see reason and schedule for the convenience of the team and the fans?) I did some laundry and watched the Cubs win and then we all went for a swim. Luckily we grilled our burgers early as a rumbly thunderstorm dropped in. So after dinner we played Sagrada and then retreated to our separate spaces to read , listen to the rain and in my case watch “Bridget Jone’s Diary”. We got a nice amount of rain overnight, always appreciated here.
On Monday we drove to Willcox and Apple Annie’s to pick apples, pears and peaches. We shared some pie (apple crumb and pecan) and ice cream and enjoyed the very blue sky and a refreshing breeze. We came home for one last swim joking about how the pool would be closed the next day. (That idea completely confused my son.) We played with my son’s waterproof camera taking all kinds of crazy pictures and movies and had a blast.
No autumn temps here for at least two more months, maybe longer, but mentally I am already switching gears. I washed my fall quilt today (same weight as my summer quilt just a different design) and pulled out my new orange ‘Life is Good’ t-shirt decorated with leaves that I have been saving. The weather channel announced it is now meteorological autumn and that is good enough for me! Over the next two weeks I am sure I will be slowly sneaking bits of autumn into my life.
I have been waffling about what to do with my blog. I know you are supposed to focus on one area, post on a regular schedule, blah blah blah. I have been an orderly rule follower my whole life and now in my dotage I have decided to be capricious. I have decided to post randomly about whatever I so desire. So there, take that world.
We start with a random Monday Joy List…
I am glad I am not really in my dotage!
Books, always. I am currently reading “The Great Alone” by Kristin Hannah. It is not an easy read emotionally, a very dark subject but I have hope for an uplifting ending.
Our pool temperature is still quite warm, about 88° making swimming a pleasure each evening.
Go CUBS Go! I really enjoy listening to the games on the radio and “treat” myself on Sundays to watching the game on tv.
I am learning so much from my on-line writing class. Why didn’t I do this years ago?
My son is going to a new school this year and they got a grant to set up a lunch program and for this year all the kids get to eat for free. Not having to make a lunch everyday…priceless. Apparently there is such a thing as a free lunch. (Of course next year it will probably cost a fortune but I won’t think about that today.)
I reorganized and gave my office a good cleaning. I am spending a lot of time in here these days.
I swapped out my wax scents. Just a little thing but it brings me joy.
I have been buying little bouquets of zinnias at the Farmer’s Market, beautiful colors.